12 Lessons from My 20s

Learn from the past; focus on growth for the future.

So I’ve turned 30.  For some reason after you leave your 20s, you can no longer hide behind being “twenty-something.”  People might take you more seriously, but they also expect more.  As I reflect on what I’ve accomplished (or not), worked through and experienced over the past 10 years, I figured I’d let you in on a few lessons I’ve learned.

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My prayer is that these lessons help inspire all of us to grow on the journey God is calling you to pursue.  If you’re in your 20s, maybe the lessons are helpful.  If you’re older and wiser, maybe it’ll help you reflect on your last 10 years as well.

  1. God prepares, I’m along for the ride. I earned a Business degree from MUN (2008) before moving into theology. I thought I was running from God’s call to ministry, but it turns out God was preparing me.  It was one of the best educational decisions I could have made.
  2. Marriage is the best commitment I’ve ever made. July 11, 2009 will always be the beginning of my biggest and most exciting adventure!
  3. Going to Bible College as a married couple took off all the pressure. While everyone was trying to find the love of their life, we were on the crazy journey of working, learning and exploring Toronto.  I wouldn’t give up the experience for anything!
  4. School is expensive and loans aren’t free. I’m still paying for every good and bad decision I made as a student.  Have fun, but think twice before spending money.
  5. Commuting is draining. After commuting in Toronto for over a year, I will avoid commuting in the future at all costs! Sometimes we convince ourselves that we have to make a certain amount of money, but the cost of distance is very draining on a marriage.
  6. Don’t shy away from big opportunities. At 25 years old, I took on the role of Lead Pastor of a small church (Bethel Bay Roberts).  I didn’t think I was ready, and I probably wasn’t.  But God doesn’t always call the equipped, he can also equip those who are called (Hebrews 13:21).
  7. Taking healthy risks is never a bad thing. Risk can sometimes lead to failure, but risks always lead to learning something new.  One thing I can say for sure – innovative success always beginnings with a healthy risk.
  8. You’re never ready for kids. I will never have enough energy, time or money.  No matter what, we had to adjust what we had in order to “train up a child in the way they should go” (Proverbs 22:6).
  9. Raising kids is exhausting, but extremely exciting. I wonder where my toddler’s energy comes from, because I don’t have it. We might celebrate an “early bedtime” kind of night, but waking up to a child who calls me “daddy” is the beginning of a good day.
  10. My wife has to come before my kids. I love my kids and they are my pride and joy, but my wife and I are a life-long team.  She’s my “partner in crime” and I can’t afford for my kids, or anything else, to derail that.
  11. Dedication and commitment always pay off in the long term. I’ve blogged on and off for the past five years.  Once I committed myself to posting at least one new post a week, engagement increased over 200 percent.
  12. Every aspect of my life is connected. My health, work, and home life all affect each other. It’s all too common to focus on one thing as we try to improve.  I’m not exactly great at keeping the balance, but I’m learning I can’t work on one and not the other.

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Your turn…

What have you learned in the past 10 years?  How can you leverage those lessons to increase personal growth for the years to come?

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4 Things You Forgot To Pack for Back-to-School

Growing Spiritually During the School Year

The busyness has begun.  The kids are back to school.  The semester is on its way.  We make sure we have all the supplies, books and fees paid, but have we forgotten anything? I was asked to share at a graduation celebration recently, and I thought of four things to share.  As I was reflecting after, I realized that these four things are needed throughout school just as much as they are at graduation.

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If we want to have a successful education experience, we need to remember to “pack” these four things for back to school:

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That’s Why I Blog…

I was in the middle of a conversation with someone recently and the topic of blogging came up.  I explained that I don’t have the time or money to further my education beyond my master’s degree and blogging is a great way for me to satisfy the itch to read, write and respond.  As a pastor, it’s also a great way to communicate with my congregation and those I connect with via social media.

I’m getting the message, however, that some aren’t too sure why I blog.  One good friend told me it might be because people think I want everyone to know who I am, or I think I’m always right, or better yet, have all the answers.  Well, those ideas couldn’t be further from the truth.  In fact, I’m confident in who I am and not afraid to stand behind my failures and successes.  I know I’m not always right – I’m married. 😀 No, but seriously, I encourage the process of learning every day and look forward to doing so.  I know I’m young and have new and fresh ideas, but that doesn’t mean that those ideas are good or are for today.  It just means they’re new.

What I know for sure is that the Church is desiring revival. If we continue, however, to do the same things we’ve done for the past 20 years (1996-2016), we will continue to get the same results.  We may say it, but it’s time we actually live it.  Because let’s face it, outside of a few successful local churches (and that’s probably transfer growth), the Church in North America hasn’t seen a recent revival.  So that means trying new things.

Will we miss the mark from time to time?  Yes.

Will we hit it out of the park from time to time? Yes.

The point is, if we want people outside of the Church to be transformed by God’s grace, then we need to stop worrying about how we like “church”, and start paying attention to how we can share God’s grace with more people.

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Does that mean throwing everything we’re used to doing away? No.

Does that mean taking on risk and trying new things? Yes.

Does that mean we must embrace the none-negotiables like PRAYER and SCRIPTURE? Yes.

Does that mean we may have to let go of some of the negotiables like TRADITION? Yes.

So… Why I blog:

I blog because I love Jesus.

I blog because I love to read. study and write about scripture.

I blog because I’m passionate about growing the Kingdom.

I blog because I truly believe in The Church – Jesus’ hands and feet in this world.

I blog because I want to see The Church reach her potential.

I blog because we can share in that journey as we make mistakes and experience success.

I blog because we’re in this together…

And together, we can make an impact and help grow God’s Kingdom as we look forward to the day when Jesus call’s His Church home.

 

That’s why I blog.

And that’s why I’ll continue to blog…

 

For the Kingdom,

p. AtH

 

Your turn:

Will you join with me as I learn, try new things and help build God’s Kingdom?