Dear Wife (And Mother of Young Kids)

An open letter to my Wife.

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I don’t express my gratitude enough to my wife. Instead, I find we just keep going from day to day assuming the other person is doing what they have to do to make the family work. Mother’s Day is always a good reminder to make sure we realize and actually say how grateful we are for their selfless efforts. This is an open letter I wrote, with my wife in mind:

dear wife with young kids

Dear Wife (and Mother of young kids);

You’re an amazing Mom!

Simply put, that could be the end of the letter. But I can’t leave it there. There are a bunch of things I need to let you know! During the day, you’re often home with the kids and I’m often at work. I want you to know that I may see things differently than you do.

When I’m at work and you’re stressed to the max at home, I’m already praying for you — even before you ask. Sometimes I even pray as I’m leaving the house.

When life is crazy, and the kids are screaming, I really wish I could be home with you to help. You’re a superstar for going solo!

When I come home and you feel like you’re not perfectly ‘put together’, I don’t see an ‘unkempt wife’, I see an ‘amazing mother’ who selflessly puts her kids first.

When the house is a mess and the laundry isn’t finished, I never think: ‘why isn’t it done?’ I actually think: ‘I can only imagine what the house would look like if I was home with the kids.’

When I get frustrated after being home for 5 minutes, I’m quickly reminded of how much patience you must have.

When I’m frustrated when you’re upset, I’m not frustrated at you, I’m frustrated that I can’t always help you. I’m sorry it doesn’t always come across that way.

When you plan and cook meals throughout the week, I’m blown away that you can pull off a meal by 5pm! But I never question why you can’t always make it happen — meals would NEVER happen if they were left to me.

Our kids might sometimes give you a difficult time (ok, that’s most of the time), but they see you as their amazing mom. They love you! You’re the coolest person they know.

When a difficult Saturday evening…night…and sometimes even morning keep you from joining our Church on Sunday morning, you’re teaching our kids boundaries (avoiding burn-out), not pushing them away from God.

When you go to the Christian bookstore and pick out a toddler devotional book, that’s when you’re instilling life-long value! It might be a ‘pain’ to keep their attention for a 30 second devotional (or for any amount of time, for that matter), but they remember more than you think.

We don’t get to go on a date very often, but when we do, I enjoy every minute of it! Even if it turns into a trip to Walmart. You’re still my best friend and I fall in love with you more and more every day!

I may help pay the bills, clean up from time to time, change a few diapers, help with bath time, and help get the kids ready for bed; but you do everything else and more, and you do it daily!

I’m sorry if I don’t always let you know, if disagreements derail us from time to time, or if I forget to do my part.  You’re simply an amazing wife and Mom! Yes, you get tired, and yes you don’t get everything done all the time — you’re human; there’s only so much time and I don’t expect it a ‘perfect’ house! We’re a team, and the family is more important than a perfect house!

But here’s the thing, you give our family 110% and put yourself last. And for that, I need to let you know how amazing you are!

Sincerely,
Your Husband and Father of your children.

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Andrew currently lives in Paradise, Newfoundland with his wife, Deidre, and two children (Rae and Pierson), where they are life group pastors of an independent church called True Life. He is a graduate of both Memorial University (BBA) and Tyndale Seminary (MTS). His passion is to help people become true disciples of Jesus.

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